Typically, the words people choose in their daily conversations subconsciously convey more about them than they realize, giving away very subtle hints about their attitudes, habits and emotional patterns which deeply influence their way of life. Although a person cannot be completely defined by a certain phrase, if a particular expression is frequently used, these will inevitably identify the person with some character traits which, on one hand, lead to difficulties, on the other – prevent the person from becoming at the same time these traits bound the circle of someone’s social and work relationships.
I’m really always right
When a person insists on being right all the time, it may be a sign that their thinking is very rigid and they find it difficult to accept other points of view. Such behavior also shows a person being resistant to whatever the other person says and only very limitedly open to getting acquainted with new information or learning.
I’m Not to Blame
Blaming other people all the time is a way to avoid one’s own responsibility for actions. At the same time, assigning blame to others keeps one’s own hands clean and externalizes the source of one’s problems. One’s negative pattern of behavior may thus become a barrier to one’s own growth.
I am indifferent
Using this phrase quite often would make one’s look like they are emotionally detached or indifferent to the things that matter to others. It might actually reveal disengagement and even neglect of healthy boundaries.
That’s how I am
This kind of statement may be indicative of a person’s lack of motivation to change their behavior and they use this phrase as a way of saying that their behavior is unchangeable and represents their personality. A lot of times such behavior discourages one from reflecting and growing.
You Always” or “You Never
Absolute language tends to make the situation too simple and to exaggerate the patterns that hardly ever are so extreme. Such a way of using language may bring to a person’s bad communication skills and also to defensiveness.
Whatever
Overusing this word can be a sign of passive resistance or evasion of a deep talk. It is often used to end a discussion rather than to solve problems in a constructive way.
I Knew This Would Happen
This phrase can indicate that the person is always expecting the bad or generally focuses on negative outcomes. Eventually, it can help to establish a self-fulfilling prophecy which limits both hope and action.
That’s Not My Job
There is nothing wrong with setting personal limits, but this phrase if used very often can reveal a person’s rigidity or unwillingness to cooperate. It can also be a sign that a person is putting his/her own convenience ahead of the team’s objectives.
People Are Just Too Sensitive
Such a comment exemplifies disregard of other people’s feelings which is quite often a result of emotional unawareness or lacking empathy.
