Convincing reasons are inherent to any close encounter, but what one says when he/she feels heated, tends to tell more. Although conflict may help build wisdom, some expressions are indicators of a pattern that extends beyond short-term annoyance. Once certain statements continue to re-emerge, it can be worth considering that the root causes of contention lie in the aspects of respect, responsibility, or emotional maturity that can not be disregarded.
“You’re Crazy”
In doing so when he walks off your concerns by telling you that you are crazy or over emotional he is diversing attention and laying it on the person. This is a strategy that destroys upon your confidence and would gradually be able to make you doubt your own perceptions, which is a great warning sign in any kind of partnership.
“This Is All Your Fault”
The blame aspect without mutual responsibility in most times points out to being unwilling to self evaluate or make errors. A healthy conflict must involve the two individuals assessing if they are right or wrong and failing to do so will result in an unbalanced type of conflict where one individual bears all the emotions of the conflict.
I guess I can’t do anything right
This is a self critical statement as it might be termed to be but it can give a refocus to the problem other than dwelling on his broken pride. Rather than dealing with the issue right out in it, it stresses you to console him and changes the discussion point to responsibility.
You Would Have To really love me, you would.
Making your love or commitment base on a given demand would bring emotional manipulation to the debate. This is a phrase which tries to put a lock on the result, and you have to prove that you are really feeling something, and not to have a reasonable and respectful conversation.
“You’re Just Like Your Family”
Naive bringing your family into a conflict is practically never effective and is often intended to hurt. Comparisons into personal issues and such like this, shift the focus out of the issue being argued and they cause more pain that is experienced long after the conflict is over.
“I’m Done Talking About This”
Though the act of taking space may be healthy, closing down of communication without a solution would stop growth and comprehension. The constant refusal to participate means that issues go unsolved and gradually build mistrust and lack of attachment.
“Maybe We Should Just End This”
The propensity to threaten a person in the middle of conflict by saying you will walk is bound to instigate some instability and fear rather than constructive dialogue. Repeated ultimatums in an argument, even when it is done in an angry tone, imply a tendency towards emotional instability, as opposed to an intention to find a way to resolve the difficulties.
