Marriage is supposed to be about fifty-fifty right but sometimes you notice a weird imbalance where one person gets away with something the other one totally couldn’t. This isn’t about huge fights or betrayals, it’s about those little everyday things that if the husband did them, his wife would be seriously upset or feel disrespected. It’s those small, quiet differences in expectations that show the double standard still exists in a lot of relationships and it affects the guy way more than the lady. Here are eleven little things wives often do that would cause major problems if the roles were reversed.
Constantly Venting About Him To Friends
A wife can call her best friend and spend an hour listing her husband’s flaws and everyone tells her she’s just getting healthy support. If a husband told all his guy friends every single bad thing his wife did he would be judged as weak or airing all his private marriage issues publicly.
Giving The Silent Treatment When Angry
Sometimes a wife will just shut down and completely refuse to talk for hours or days when she’s mad and people call that needing space. If a husband used the silent treatment to punish his wife it would instantly be seen as emotional abuse and total immaturity.
Using Crying As A Conversation Ender
A wife can start crying when a conversation gets difficult or she’s losing an argument and the other person usually backs off immediately to comfort her. When a husband starts crying during a serious talk he risks being told he’s being manipulative or that he needs to just pull himself together.
Taking Over His Closet Space And Drawers
It’s a running joke that the wife’s clothes and shoes slowly creep into the husband’s side of the closet until he barely has any space left. If a husband started stuffing his sports gear and clothes into his wife’s vanity and drawers he would be accused of total disrespect for her space.
Acting Like He’s Incapable Of Certain Chores
Stop constantly fixing the chores your husband finished. Always reminding him how to clean makes him feel unappreciated. You would feel totally belittled if he thought you were too stupid to clean the counter, so stop it.
Making Big Purchases Without Asking First
Wives sometimes buy expensive purses or gadgets without checking the budget. If a husband bought a pricey tool or a game console secretly, he’d be called a liar or financially careless. That is a clear difference in how people judge them.
Never Putting Gas In The Car
Sometimes a wife drives the shared car until the gas light is blinking and just leaves it on empty for her husband to deal with later. If a husband consistently left the car on E knowing his wife had to rush to work the next day she would be furious about his thoughtlessness.
Asking Him To Run Errands During His Free Time
Asking your husband to run errands the second he sits down after work or while he is busy with a hobby is kinda bad. If he bossed her around all the time and interrupted her, people would call him controlling.
Constantly Blaming Moods On Stress Or Hormones
A wife’s bad mood is blamed on stress and people understand. A husband’s bad mood from work stress means he is told he must manage his feelings better.
Skipping Grooming Expectations
She can wear old clothes and no makeup at home and it is seen as relaxing. But if a guy stays unshaven in holey clothes all weekend, he is quickly told to clean up his act. The standard is different.
Assuming He Will Always Drive Everywhere
A wife can completely rely on her husband to drive for every trip every long vacation and all the complicated directions without offering to share the driving load. If a husband insisted his wife always do all the driving for every single outing she would feel like he was being lazy and taking advantage of her.
